My cyberfriend, Victor Humphries. A navy man from Australia. I enjoyed talking to him about his life.
Many facing the end of their lives can benefit from looking back and reflecting. In fact, CHEO's Roger's House, a respite care site for children, uses such tools. It is a common and healthy activity.
One of the things I have done with my Hospice clients, and the men and women with whom I have volunteered in LTC, enjoyed talking to me about their lives. I created a PPT for one of my clients, but he passed away before I could present it. He was feeling rather defeated. His wife passed away. At age 92 he was feeble, and failing. We spent many hours creating a memorable presentation on his life. I did meet an Aussie on-line. Victor Humphries, who wrote to me about his life.
In fact, writing your ideas is a healthy way to focus on the positives. If one cannot write, having a friend or family member do a formal interview can achieve the same goals. An autobiography helps a senior realize their life lessons. It shows Respect for a life well-lived.
- Tell me about your childhood.
- Where did you grow up?
- Did you like school?
- What was school like?
- What about your best friends?
- What did you do for fun in your youth?
- Tell me about overcoming an obstacle in your life.
- What is your deepest regret or disappointment in your life?
- What do you think are the most important things about life?
- What do you think about death?
- What are your life’s achievements?
- What do you find are the most satisfying things in life?
- Who have you admired and why?
- Describe the kind of person you have been.
- What were the happiest moments in your life?
- What mystifies you about life today?
- What is your favourite food?
- What messages would you like to leave your family?
- Is there anything else you would like to say?
From nursing article •Life Review in Critical Care: Possibilities, CCNurse. 2010;30: 17-27 Mimi Jenko, Leah Gonzalez and Paul Alley. Critical Care Nurse. Vol 30, No. 1, FEBRUARY 2010 27