Tuesday, May 20, 2008

The first funeral- part 2 delirium

5/20/06
For a week Dad was up at night, lighting the wood stove all alone, urinating on the carpet, and falling asleep on the floor. He could not get to the bathroom due to physical, emotional, or locomotor issues. He left taps running and still couldn’t figure out his medications. When we found him in the morning he was there on the floor in a puddle of urine. Dad was so ill we decided that Robin had to take Dad to the hospital. The rest of us, Brian, Caitlin, Jean–Luc, Jesse, Terry, and I took off to attend the funeral. Now, in hindsight, I know that Dad was delirious (see the final section of this book for more information), from either the radiation, his urinary tract infection, or the multiple drugs he was taking.

Dad was so ill this morning. We have a private funeral planned. Robin decides to take Dad to hospital. We had had many people visit for the visitation and Robin had been there. Robin will miss the funeral. At the funeral home everyone asks about Dad and I have to tell him or her how ill he is. Dad is incoherent. We do not know that this is not normal after radiation treatments and he is susceptible to infections as a result of this. Dad is getting up at night, lighting the fire alone, and falls asleep on the floor. He cannot get to the bathroom due to physical, emotional and locomotor issues. When we find him in the morning he is there on the floor in a puddle of urine.

My brother missed his mother’s funeral. At the funeral home everyone asked about Dad and Rob, and I had to explain the turn of events. Dad was incoherent. Everyone said that the last time they saw him he was “just fine.” We did not know that his incontinence was not normal after radiation treatments, and that he was susceptible to infections as a result of this treatment. We did not know if it was the tumour affecting him or the numerous pharmaceuticals. More lack of communication and information--there should be a pamphlet or something that can be given to family members. Mom and Dad were beyond comprehension of the effect and the potential side effects of radiation. Again, they did not ask questions.

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